I decided not to buy any clothes in 2017
Having downsized and decluttered (and still decluttering) the clothes the DH and I have now fit into one small closet and one chest of drawers.
I am doing this for a number of reasons.
- I don’t need any more clothes. I have enough.
- My friend Lisa inspired me – fast fashion contributes to landfill, overuse of chemicals and exploitation of workers.
- I don’t have the space to store more clothes.
- To live more simply.
- Too much choice is not good for mental health.
- My mom hoarded clothes.
I have gone without buying clothes before. When the DH and I were not working we didn’t buy clothes for almost three years. Our priority was caring for our growing children, and to eat and heat.
Even when I returned to work I was so used to not having any money I still didn’t shop. I saved most of my salary as the plan was to go travelling when the contract ended.
Nine years ago I bought my first new clothes in three years
I was invited to a wedding. I bought a complete new outfit, dress, shoes, bag, jewellery and a fascinator. My boss remarked that he had never seen someone so excited about clothes shopping. I explained that I had not had any new clothes for three years so this was not mindless shopping, this was planned shopping and I was enjoying the whole experience. He was genuinely shocked that I had not had new clothes for three years. Not shoes, not socks not underwear. Nothing.
Shopping is the quick fix
For many the payday weekend spent mindlessly buying more t shirts and tops and shoes that they don’t need is the norm. A new top for the weekend or an impulse purchase that may never be worn (we all have those right) is a reward for working. Advertisers tell us to treat ourselves so we do. We deserve this, we tell ourselves, as we plunder Primark.
Nine years later I still have the dress, the jewellery and the shoes I bought for the wedding in 2008. I know it was 2008 because when looking for a dress I knew that I wanted one inspired by the dress Meryl Streep wears to the wedding in Mama Mia. While I don’t wear the outfit every day (not a shopping in Aldi type of outfit) the dress and jewellery are loved and worn regularly. The dress packs well for holidays and when I wear it I still feel good in it. The cost per wear ratio is low. I intend that all my clothes will be an investment and last for many years.
Ditching clothes in Melbourne
Last year, whilst travelling, I ditched a substantial amount of clothes in Melbourne – donated to an Op Shop. The DH and I had brought too many clothes with us and whilst we needed winter clothes at the beginning of the trip we didn’t for the last part in Queensland and New Zealand. We had also packed the wrong sort of clothes and decided to buy some clothes in Australia. We replaced heavy sweat shirts with puffer jackets that are light and warm which pack down small. Jeans were replaced with travel trousers which have since been also discarded. Because I blame them for The Rash that blighted my NT trip.
For 11 days in the NT I lived out of a 40l backpack weighing 8kg. It was enough. Why I packed too many clothes for the trip down under baffles me still. All I need is one pair of linen trousers, one pair of cotton shorts a t shirt and a linen tunic dress. Add one pair of sandals and 1 pair of trainers, swimsuit, travel towel and undies – and that was my 11 day packing list.
Back into the closet
In 2016 and now back in the UK I completely overhauled my wardrobe. In 2015 I had adopted Project 333. I added some items, donated more to charity and replaced the shoes and jeans I had discarded in Melbourne. We have very limited space for clothes in the small house. One small cupboard and one chest of drawers. I converted to the KonMari art of folding and never looked back.
In 2017 I decided not to buy clothes for a year
It is now month four and I have not bought any clothes. Neither has the DH.
Have I been tempted? Yes I have. First was a cardigan on sale. One similar to my favourite cardigan. Made by an ethical clothing company, Thought. I tried it on, thinking of all the ways I could justify this purchase. Ethical, reduced, fits my colour palette. I did not buy it. It did not feel or look right on me. I put it back on the hanger and walked away.
My other temptation was when in Chester and there were a few shops with clothes I love. White Stuff. Mistral and Fat Face. I looked and touched and walked out of the shop.
I repeated to myself:
I have enough.
I need to check how ethical their clothes are.
Declutter not acquire.
Spending on clothes stopped but spending on other things started
I have noticed that I have been buying more of other stuff instead. Lovely notebooks and pens. Travel accessories.
I have justified them all.
I needed the note books and pen because I want to start a journal in long hand.
I needed the bullet journal and pen because I want to learn how to bullet journal.
I needed the Lamy roller ball pen because despite having inherited some beautiful ink pens (including a Lamy fountain pen) I am messy and ink goes everywhere, but any old biro isn’t good enough for Leuchtturm1917 note books.
I needed the pen loop for the Leuchtturm1917 journals to ensure I did not lose the pen. The pen does not fit the loop.
I needed the Travelon Anti theft bag because my old one was too small and wearing out.
I needed the travel document holder because it has RFID and is better than a poly pocket.
I needed the organisers because cables get mixed up in backpacks.
I needed the labels for the cables because I never know which one is for which gadget.
I needed the flat toilet bags because packing toiletries is a nightmare and these have special compartment for everything.
You see how it is.
Have I started a journal? No. They are so beautiful I don’t want to spoil their loveliness.
Have I used the pen? Yes and I love it. No one is allowed to borrow it.
Have I attached pen loops? No.
I have used the handbag every day – I can carry all I need, including the new purse I also needed, a book to read, another note book that I use all the time and my diary, plus phone and lippy.
I have used one travel organiser (used all the time) as we keep all cables in there now. The others will be used when we travel. So far we have not labelled the cables.
I have used the toilet bags because they discipline me not to take too much. However for carry on only I may go back to ziplock bags only due to airport security. We will see.
Many of the travel items were recommended by my on line friend of almost 2 years (although I have followed her blog for longer). And they are jolly useful. Because I don’t and she does have affiliate links to these items I am adding a link here. Alyson is chief blogger at World Travel Family. She only recommends things she uses and thinks are good. The blog is worth a read too.
I need to extend the no buy rule
It did strike me that I was buying much more than I usually do.
Why was this?
I had to give some thought to this. After all I write about decluttering, I help others declutter so why was I accumulating?
Because I was depressed.
Because I had Amazon Prime.
You see the list above is not complete
I have also bought:
A wireless doorbell.
Bamboo toothbrushes from Holland and Barrett. And because I got free delivery if I spent £20 I got other stuff too.
Packing cubes from Muji. They were half price. I already have four sets of Ikea packing cubes.
A bed, two mattresses and bed linen from Ikea. Slipped that major purchase in.
A weeks holiday in Cape Verde.
A weekend away in Shropshire.
I realised that I was getting addicted to online shopping. So I stopped. This does not help my mission to declutter.
I was suffering with SAD and the ongoing problems with the house (lots of bills and no progress) and house clearing was making me miserable. So I shopped. And as I hate going to shops, I clicked.
I stopped. And then my hairdryer blew up. I considered doing without but I have long hair and it takes half a day to dry naturally, without sun. I bought a hairdryer.
I have stopped buying now
And now I am getting rid of all my unwanted furniture. It was a choice of paying removalists and storage for furniture that no longer suits my life or selling and giving it away. Today I have sold two sofas, two Turkish rugs, two occasional tables a computer chair and some other random things that were cluttering my life. My neighbour has vintage desk and bureau. Another neighbour has my vintage breadbin and the other has the workbench. They are doing our garden as payment in kind.
I have moved on
I realised that I was stressed and depressed because I was planning to move and store stuff I don’t want. I lost sight of the plan. This house is an investment and we are renovating it to rent and sell. Not a forever home. I was buying stuff to fill the gap of not travelling. I have to continue to declutter to achieve my goal.
So here is the plan
Don’t buy anymore stuff
Finish the house (involves buying things but not stuff)
Rent it out on Air B&B
Use it as a base when in the UK
House sit more
Sell the house
Live in a warm country
What do you think of the plan?